who is part of an Indian family and still lives in some part of India will definitely be made to swim across the matrimony ocean, and i am no exception. So are my very many friends, some have found the most loved pearls, some have found best of quicksands, some have decided to dive at a spot but are hesitant because of unknown reasons (even to them :P) and many like me are scared to take a dive.
When i ask many as to why do they want to get married, i get weird answers..While some told me its their ambition to get married (ooopsss!!!!), some went a step ahead. They boasted, getting their next generation ready as a big achievement for them personally...Oh my gaaaawwwwdddd....And these are people who have done their education from the best of universities. While i don't deny, the challenges involved in today's lifestyle to run a happy family, but having that as their ambition...well I must thank them for making my year:)
As i sit and look around, what has marriage done to very many people in my first circle...I just grasped probably the tip of the iceberg. I say so, for i have not tested the waters yet. Before marriage its all about I, ME and MYSELF. After marriage it changes to WE WE WE.....Then the Indian society stands around the newly wed asking "When baby, when baby?"...and most do their duty without fail, but it does not stop there. They worry about providing good care for the kid, in the process they run behind more money, more comfort, better lifestyle. In between they satisfy their conscience by buying stuff for elders, which is of no use to them, but it was....Visit friends and close knit family on occasions but in all formality...They forget the word casual in the transformation. Very rarely we see people relax, enjoy life
- like the college days with their pals
- like the childhoods with their cousins
- like a child with their parents
and exceptionally very few as good parent to their kids.....
But still life moves on.....Suddenly i realized the amount of sacrifice that every stakeholder puts in to make one happy couple for the society, for their better half, for their parents, for their in-laws, for their friends, for their kith and kin, by their friends, by their family, by their kith and kin.....But how many really make sacrifices and not compromises? There is a big world of difference between the two......
A good friend of mine once said, "Life is all about compromises, we make compromises to lead a happy life"....Sometimes i wonder what are sacrifices really for? Are they really worth the pain? Is it really worth the love which made us do the sacrifices and not compromises? Sometimes i wonder is it really worth the time remembering the sacrifice and the good old love that empowered it?
Still searching for answers....
Let glory be with kalyan....
